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A transition can be tough for kids. But there are ways to make them smoother and less stressful for everyone involved.
Your child is happily playing with their toys, totally engrossed, when you say, “Time to get ready for bed!” Suddenly, there are tears, resistance, or maybe even a full-blown meltdown.
Sound familiar?
It’s the same issue with my own kiddies.
It is the same if we leave a place or change from game to game. We have all been there, you are not alone in this.
By understanding why a transition for kids is hard, we can begin to help them.
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Why Are Transitions Hard for Kids?
Kids thrive on routine and predictability.
When your kids are so focused on an activity or shift to something else, especially something they don’t want to do, it can feel overwhelming for them.
They may not have the same sense of time as adults. They also might struggle with stopping something enjoyable for something less fun (like cleaning up or getting in the car).
The good news?
With a few simple strategies, you can help ease these transitions.
1. Give Warnings and Time Cues
Kids do best when they know what’s coming next.
Mine definitely like to know what’s going on.
Instead of springing a transition on them, try giving a heads-up.
“In five minutes, we’re going to clean up and have lunch.” Some kids respond well to timers, either a visual timer, a sand timer, or even the countdown on your phone.
Giving them time to prepare can help prevent frustration.
2. Use a Fun Signal
Make the transition fun!
Knowing that a meltdown is coming is stressful for us parents. Give this a go, you will thank your future self for this one.
You can use a silly song, a special clap, or even a countdown to signal the switch. I have to admit, this doesn’t always work with mine, but when it does, I feel great!
For younger kids, a cleanup song can help shift the mood from playtime to tidying up.
Having a fun routine with a transition makes them feel less like a demand and more like a game.
My girls love to race getting ready for bed or being timed to see how quick they can clean their toys away.
This saves so much drama.
3. Offer Choices When Possible
No one likes feeling forced into something.
I started giving my children choices from the moment they could walk.
I remember people saying, “You don’t have to do what she wants”, and I would say, “I know, but it’s not a problem letting her choose”
I have always believed in compromise, and this works in all aspects of life, don’t you agree?
Giving kids a sense of control can make that transition easier.
Instead of saying, “Put on your shoes now,” try, “Do you want to put on your shoes first or your jacket first?”
It still gets the job done, but they feel like they have a say in the process.
It’s genius, and it works!!
4. Use Visual Schedules or Reminders
Some kids, especially younger ones or those who struggle with transitions, do well with visual schedules.
Having pictures or a checklist of what’s coming next helps them feel prepared.
If mornings are a struggle. A chart that shows “Get dressed → Eat breakfast → Brush teeth → Go to school” can work wonders.
Just remember that kids like simple and small instructions.
Don’t overload them or you by asking them to do too much in one go.
Bite-sized chunks keep everyone calm and happy.
5. Connect Before You Redirect
Take a moment to think about how you would feel if you were busy. Then, someone tells you you need to change direction right now. You’d have a meltdown, right?
So it’s no surprise our children do, too. They don’t have the experience we do.
Before moving to the next activity, take a moment to connect with your child.
Get down to their level, make eye contact, and acknowledge what they’re doing.
“I see you’re building an amazing tower! That looks so fun. In two minutes, we’ll need to start getting ready for bed, but you can finish up one more thing.”
When kids feel heard, they’re more likely to do what you ask.
6. Make Transitions Part of the Routine
If your child struggles with specific transitions (like leaving the playground or turning off the tablet). Build a predictable routine around them.
For example, if leaving the park is always hard, it is for my children.
Try saying, “First, we’ll go down the slide two more times, then we’ll sing our goodbye song, and then we’ll go to the car.”
Obviously, you can tailor the wording for your children and age.
Knowing what to expect makes it less of a battle.
7. Stay Calm and Patient
Even with all these strategies, there will still be times when a transition is hard.
The key is to stay calm and patient. I know as a parent of three how hard this is. You are human, and we all make mistakes.
If your child is melting down, acknowledge their feelings: “I know it’s hard to stop playing. You’re having so much fun.”
Sometimes, just feeling understood helps them move forward.
When they do come away without a meltdown or a fuss, don’t forget to praise them!
This could be a simple hug and a well done. Or maybe a sticker, sweet treat or a game. Whaever works for you and your family.
Encouraging positive behaviour and getting that praise for said behaviour will make them do it more.
Bee's Final Thoughts
Transitions are a normal part of life, and helping kids learn to handle them now will serve them well in the future.
It takes time and patience. And a little creativity. But with these strategies, you can make transitions smoother and avoid (most) of the meltdowns.
Have you found any great transition tricks that work for your family?
Share them in the comments, I’d love to hear what works for you!
Thanks for reading.
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